Perhaps aside from the most successful people in the world, we all sabotage ourselves. Integrative health specialists can provide insight into this issue within a person with integrative practice solutions. Some wait until they’re close to success, while others sabotage themselves before they even take the first step. The causes are the same regardless of when it occurs. At holistic family practice, we work with individuals to help them to transform these self sabotaging tendencies.
The world is tough enough without taking on the role of the greatest obstacle you face in life. You’re also the toughest opponent to beat. Your mindset, emotions, and limiting beliefs as well as perceptions are all things holding you back in your life. It is not the partner, the job, the parents (or lack their of) it all boils down to you taking personal responsibility for your mental and emotional upsets.
Hardly anyone addresses this issue in their own life. Many people are looking to blame others for how their lives are going. We are all a product of our decisions and our choices in life. It comes down to how you play the hand you are dealt in life. Integrartive health specialists provide integrative practice solutions to help you sort through these ideas, concepts, limiting, beliefs, etc. There is no expectation that you will do it all on your own or all by yourself. That is unrealistic. It is very difficult to see your blind spots in life. You’ll have a huge advantage over everyone you know if you can put an end to this behavior. The faster you can drop these limiting beliefs the faster you are able to live the life that you love. There’s not much else in your way if you can get out of your own way.
Avoid self-sabotage and enjoy more success with these integrative practice solutions strategies:
- Think about your goals. Does this make you feel uncomfortable? This is the best predictor of your ability to follow through on a goal. Integrative health specialists are trained to make you feel uncomfortable, after all that’s how hang happens is outside of your comfort zone. If you can think about achieving your goal and only have positive feelings, you won’t sabotage yourself. But, if you get that queasy feeling, you know that you have some work to do. Even if your feelings get in the way, you are able to push past them because after all your feelings do not define who you are in life. Your feelings are nothing more than that, feelings. They do not define who you are but so many people choose to allow their feelings to define who they are and what they do. Feel the feelings but do it anyway.
- Visualize positive outcomes. Imagine everything turning out well. It’s only when you start predicting the worst that you’ll have issues. Integrative health specialists often will recommend guided visualizations such as guided imagery, meditations, EFT, etc. This doesn’t mean to ignore the potential pitfalls, but it’s important to avoid overwhelming yourself with worries. You can transform any of these limiting beliefs with several skills, and tools in your tool bag. Integrative health specialists can define which tools are best for the task at hand. Some things need more emotional tools, some mental tools, and other physical tools. In any case, we help you sort through the “things” and apply the tools that best fits the needs.
- Handle the worst. Consider the possible issues that may come up in the future and determine how you will handle them. This is a one-time exercise. Doing this every day will sabotage your efforts. Integrative health specialists will often recommend an exercise to go through all of the possible negative scenarios. This will take the sting out of it if you have already emotionally and mentally processed through it all. It will also move those unconscious fears and limiting beliefs out of your system so you can be free from them.
- Avoid making decisions when you’re stressed. Integrative health specialists often recommend to think more logically instead of emotionally. Making decisions is no different, especially in the event of a death in the family or shocking accident, etc. It is imperative to pause and process through the unhealthy emotions first before you make a life altering decision.Quitting just before attaining your goals usually happens when you’re emotionally distressed. Decisions made in this mental state often focus on releasing that emotional stress, instead of considering the future ramifications. Avoid big decisions until you’ve had a chance to calm down. Those that are highly reactive can sometimes burn bridges if they react too quickly.
- Avoid starting “tomorrow.” There’s always another tomorrow. It’s a moving target that’s always conveniently out of reach. Once you’ve set a goal, start doing something today. Integrative health specialists who provide integrative practice solutions are often swamped with patients because of the growing needs of healthcare. I always say, don’t put off tomorrow, something you can do today because you never know what tomorrow will bring. How many times have you “tomorrow-ed” yourself? The same thing can be said about starting on Monday or the first of the month. This is a common procrastination strategy for people.
- Keep your mental chatter positive. Integrative health specialists often say that we have up to 50,000 thoughts each day. Most of them aren’t particularly supportive or encouraging. You can change that! Integrative practice solutions include becoming present to the mental chatter and changing the chatter to something healthier. We call this reframing, identifying an unhealthy thought pattern and then moving it into a healthier thought pattern. Just this simple technique can help remove so much grief and suffering from your mental and emotional state.
- Notice how you sabotage yourself. Do you suddenly quit? Do you procrastinate? What do you do to sabotage yourself? Knowing your tendencies will help you to recognize when your efforts are going off the rails. If you can see it coming, you can do something about it. Slowing down in the moment and being present to your thoughts and feelings in the moment is key to recognizing what thoughts and behaviors do not serve you. Most often we are moving so fast, and that fast movement creates chaos in your life. Slow down, recognize your thoughts and feelings in the moment so that you can make shifts.
- Stop fearing failure. You’ve failed at other things. How bad was it really? Probably not that bad. Learn from your undesired outcomes and try again. That’s 90% of success in life. Integrative health specialists fail all of the time. They try to “fix” the problems of people that trust them and try as they may with integrative practice solutions they may not hit it on the first time go round. However, they continue to try to help their patients reach their goals. This resilience and perseverance is key for total health and wellness. Failure is not a moral issue, it is a performance issue. It is relative to you making an effort and trying to achieve something.
- Build your self-esteem. Some people self-sabotage because they believe they don’t deserve it. This is especially true for those that have experienced abuses of any kind. People that have experienced negative mental, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse in their upbringing are often plagued with low self esteem issues. Integrative practice solutions can be employed to help those that have experienced these things who are often very sensitive beings. They simply cannot understand or explain why they are sensitive they just are. Being sensitive, it is easy to feel different, not a part of, like yourself or want the best for yourself because you may not feel worthy. Recognizing these limiting beliefs, and reframing them into positive healthy self beliefs is key.Then you’ll do the best for yourself without limitations.
Believe that you’re worthy of success and you’re halfway there. Failure is a part of life. It’s even a necessary part of life. It teaches you more about yourself and what you are capable fo achieving in any given moment. You become more knowledgeable and capable with each failure. Study yourself and notice how you sabotage yourself. You can deal with it right away when it happens as well as recognizing the pitfalls and preventing them before they occur.
Self-sabotage is a common behavior. Part of your brain perceives it as a way of protecting yourself. Take a stand against self-sabotage and put an end to it once and for all.